Author: Jodi Sky Rogers

Jodi Sky Rogers is an author, content creator, coach and founder of Fertility Books South Africa, an online bookstore (now archived) that catered specifically for women who are trying to conceive. She is passionate about nature writing and specialized in creating soulful fertility, mindfulness and self-care resources that support women on their fertility journey. She has authored several fertility-focused books, including ‘Fertility Calm for the Two Week Wait ’, the ‘Fertility Calm Creative Journal’ and ‘Mending Softly – Finding Hope and Healing After Ectopic Pregnancy Loss’. Her book, Mending Softly, won ‘Best Fertility Book’ in the European Fertility Society’s 2021 Fertility Care Awards. Earlier works include women's spirituality books, Wild Essence and Flowering Within.

A Writer’s Inspiration

“Writing is like making love. Don’t worry about the orgasm, just concentrate on the process.”
~ Isabel Allende

In recent months, I’ve been in the beautiful and messy process of writing a book. I’m not sure if I’ve always dreamt of author, but writing has always been a big part of who I am and how I express myself. I remember secretly crafting little stories and poems on piece of paper from as young as 8 years old. I’d tuck them away safely under my bed and only share them with friends who I trusted.

The experience of writing a book has been interesting. I am discovering that it requires a great deal of patience, confidence and dedication. It isn’t a clear cut process. Ideas constantly evolve, new perspectives creep in and the urge to go back and rewrite different sections is constant. I hate loose ends. I like knowing that I’ve completed what I started and that it can be scratched of my list. Writing short pieces gave me this satisfaction because it is a concise process in which the path was clear and the end was in sight. So book writing has been quiet an adjustment for me.

At the moment, I am happy see things finally taking shape. The exercise has stretched me. It has called on me to trust myself more and to allow the Universe to guide me. It has forced me to connect more to my heart space and to flow with Divine Spirit.

Finding inspiration is important in helping me stay motivated. When I am stuck in my ego or give power to my fears, things stagnate. When I surrender and go with the flow of creation, then inspiration and guidance always shows up. Nature has been an incredible source of inspiration. I begin most days by meditating under the pale blue sky in my garden. Those moments of stillness always trigger incredible insights and a clear focus.

Another source of inspiration showed up in a book that I discovered a while ago. A few years ago, when I worked as an Environmental Research I began collecting out of print South African books, life histories and memoirs from the 1800s. I’m fascinated with the historical stories that they told. I also wanted to understand what the natural environment looked like when the European settlers arrived before natural habitats were destroyed for development or cleared away for farmland.

One of the books I ordered was called The Hippo Poacher. According to the bookshop information, it was authored by Oliver Walker. Imagine my surprise when the book arrived and I discovered my great-great-grandfather’s name –Domenic Dunn – also appeared on the spine of the book right next to Oliver Walker’s. It was so exciting to discover that he co-authored the book and also assisted with the research for a novel that Oliver Walker wrote about his father.

The unexpected discovery inspired me. Each time I see his name on the spine of the book, I feel motivated by his example. Somehow it makes me feel that if did it then I can too. It always reminds me that I want touch people’s hearts with the words that I share. I want to leave a mark that inspires others, and my future children especially, in the same way that he’s achievement inspired me.

Each one of us has so much to offer the world. I love being reminded of my purpose and of my potential to impact on others with love and inspiration. I am hopeful that I will be able to do this with my book when I eventually complete and publish it. The possibility of it excites me and in my heart it feels that it was meant to be.

Guest Post: Meditations with the Three Me’s by Emma Happy Light

Note: Last week I had an amazing Energy healing session with Emma. During the session, I was introduced to the ‘inner me’, the fragile and fearful inner child self who needed lots of love and gentleness. Intrigued by the session, I invited Emma to write about her fascinating insights on the three aspects of the self.

Guest Post: Meditations with the Three Me’s by Emma Happy Light

My journey of healing began with the healing of others. I had many interesting sessions with my clients, I ran around the room like a crazy person with my sword of fire (On loan from Archangel Michael), battling the scary entities for the sake of my clients. I felt brave yet scared of these dark energies. During one such session, I grew tired of the fighting. I threw down the sword of fire and sat on the couch (the client sleeping peacefully and unaware). I told the entity, ‘Do your worst, I’ve had enough’. From rearing up in all its dark shadowy glory – it suddenly dissolved into a normal man, but of shadow shades and it asked me, ‘What, aren’t we fighting anymore?’

‘Nope.’ I replied, ‘I’ve had enough. Do your worst. I give up.’

‘Oh.’ It said and we sat peacefully in silence for a few moments.

This seemed odd, so I asked it, ‘why aren’t you attacking me anymore?’

He explained, ‘I am your fear times 10. Whatever negative belief you have, I am obligated to amplify it and reflect it back to you.’ Now this is very interesting, as when I gave up the fight, when I stopped resisting his darkness, the darkness left. It was never there to begin with. I created it by being scared of it. My taught belief system had pre programmed me to be scared of entities / demons / darkness / the ‘shadows’

This entity, it turns out, was a really nice guy. He explained that nothing hurts us without our permission. He showed me that the client wanted him to be there and had subconsciously called to him and created a contract binding him to her. He said he wouldn’t mind leaving, but he still had work to do. I asked him what would happen if I removed him and he shrugged. ‘Well,’ he said ’You will remove me, but not with her permission. She will subconsciously call me back and we will start the cycle again, just a lesser version.’ In parting, he showed me the chord of attachment binding the two of them and put the knowledge into my mind that the chord would only truly be dissolved (permanently, not temporarily like forced chord cuttings) when she was a 100% aware and a willing participant.

This has taken years to process and digest. The result of all this thoughtful chewing has lead me to some behavior that might come across as a little bit loopy. I internalized this information and realized that it is not all out there, but in here. But what is in here? Just me. Ok, how many me’s? Just us three. (There are actually many more, but I chose to only focus on the main 3 personalities)

Inner me
The me we see
Upper me

The three of us sit on one single long table. On my far right we find Inner me. On the far left is Upper me. And in the middle, we have the Me we See. We are forever caught on this see-saw, us three.

*Inner Me is scared, sad and angry. She is all the life hardships jam packed together into one energetic little bundle. She is the inner child, her age changing with each situation. She unintentionally hurts ‘the me we see’ with her fear which manifests physically as illness or pain. She creates all the contracts with the entities. The entities are never there without her permission and will only leave when she believes she is safe and also wants this change. The contracts are created during moments of trauma or fright as a child and they play out throughout our lives. They were her way of protecting us when we needed help. Don’t hate her, she was very brave.
She fights and attacks perceived threats. This is closely followed by hiding under the bed and sucking her thumb. So this shows that she is a fragile vulnerable child. Upper me says all she deserves is love and soft gentle kind attention. She needs to be respected, heard and honored. The Me We See must listen.

*The Me we See has no patience for Inner me. She is annoyed and angry with her. She wants to get on with things. The cognitive mind has read amazing things and imagines that she is so capable and that this stupid energy block (inner me) must be removed at once so that she can get on with being instantly fixed and healed. She is stuck in the middle between beautiful gentle loving wisdom of Upper me and the fear and playfulness of the Inner me. She swings between worlds like a pendulum, sliding from one side of the table to the other.

*Upper me smiles softly and embraces us both, she understands us and is without judgment. She explains that she is part of the network of all living things. She is the connection that we all seek, her higher energy a goal to seek. As when we can feel it, it is euphoric. But she will not take away the lost alone feeling, so searching for the permanent euphoria from an upward source will not help. The three of us together in combined loving energy will accomplish this.

I asked Upper me to explain why it seems to generally be only Inner me, or the me that we see, that is in control of the body / words / actions. She showed me in a vision of Inner me scared and said, ‘When Inner us is scared, you’re sitting closer to her. Why don’t you comfort her?’
‘But why can’t you help? The Me we See asks
‘We are a jury, the highest vote wins. You are caught up in her fear, you feel your heart racing. Therefore you relate more strongly to her than to me. That means that I have been outvoted and the behavior that follows will be the result of her leading. 2 out of 3 wins hands down every time. Patience. With practice and over the years to come, Inner us will calm down. As long as she is paid enough loving attention.

Oh ai, this topic is very detailed and complicated. I am trying to simplify something that I have been channeling for 3 years. The easiest way to understand this is to see me in person or to book a skype session. Because it is absolutely guaranteed that during your session, Inner you will pop up out of the woodwork. She will introduce herself and will have a lot to say. She has been ignored for too long now. We will honour and respect her and only do what she is willing to do, as we can not force a healing on the inner you if she doesn’t want it.

Sometimes I feel like the aim of life is to learn how to love both sides equally, so that the table that we 3 share is shorter and we sit close to each other holding hands. Teamwork. Team me.

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About Our Guest Author:

Emma is an intuitive and energy healer based in Stellenbosch, South Africa. She is the creator of the Oracle of Colour oracle card deck. To find out more about Emma, her services and the products that she offers you can visit her website: http://www.happylight.co.za or Email her on: emma@happylight.co.za

Where there’s a Will there’s a Way

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
~ Albert Einstein

Crises happen upon you when least expect them to. Like tremors, they shake things up. They turn your world upside down, shatter your heart and bring you to your knees.

Two weeks ago my dad suffered a major heart attack. As one would expect, this sent me on an emotional rollercoaster ride, experiencing everything from shock, to fear, panic, to sadness and helplessness. It is difficult to see people whom you love go through trauma. Sometimes no matter how much you remind yourself to accept what is and to trust in the power of the Universe, you never feel prepared for the soul crushing experiences that you are faced with, especially when it involves your parents. It didn’t help that I live in a different place to my parents and could not get there right away. Fortunately, my dad was lucky to survive the heart attack and the surgery that followed.

Throughout this gruelling experience, I have witnessed the work of Divine intervention. If there was ever any doubt that Spirit and angelic helpers were at work in our lives, this experience was enough to convince most people completely.

My father works 2 hours away from home, he commutes to work every day. At the time that his heart attack occurred, he was driving home from work. When he realised what was happening, he managed to drive himself to the nearest town and get to a hospital. The fact that he was able to do this is quite miraculous in my eyes. He could have had an accident on the road. He could have pulled over and given up on getting help because of the debilitating pain. But he didn’t. Instead, he got himself to a rural hospital with only two nurses and one doctor. With minimal supplies, they managed to assist him until an ambulance arrived 45 minutes later to transport him to a bigger hospital another an hour and 15 minutes away, where he underwent heart surgery.

Three days later, he walked out of hospital. He looked frail and thin. It was a scary to see him that way. But for the most part he was pretty much his usual self – driving my mother crazy. The doctors were amazed. Firstly, that he had the ability to drive himself while in the process of having a heart attack. Most people pass out because the pain is so excruciating. Secondly, that he survived the wait for the ambulance as well as being transported. Patients are usually airlifted to bigger hospitals ASAP. The helicopter was not available on that day. They were also amazed at how fast he recovered from the surgery. They said that they’d never seen a case like his. Miracle? You decide. It is in my eyes.

“If you can suffer an acute heart attack, drive 50km to the nearest hospital yourself, wait for the only doctor in a small rural hospital to arrive to provide some treatment, wait another 45 minutes for an ambulance to come from another town, and then travel 1 hour 15 minutes to the nearest city, and then undergo heart surgery, and walk 2 days later, you can pretty much survive anything!” ~ Brian Williams

Each crisis has its lessons. This whole experience has reminded me of how powerful the will of a human spirit can be. The will to survive and to live can give you the strength to overcome and rise above all kinds of circumstances. The conscious mind may not always know the answers. We may not know how you are going to get through something, or how you are going to achieve your dreams. But your Spirit always knows. As the age old adage goes – Where there is a will there is a way. Sometimes when you don’t know how, you just need to be willing. A Course in Miracles teaches about the need for willingness, for it is through being willing that we open a channel to our hearts and allow space for change, transformation and guidance to enter.

I am also humbled by the grace of God. Everything panned out according to Divine timing, leading him to the right people in the right places at the right time. I am grateful that my family is safe and that my dad was given a second chance. I’ve been reminded that life is so precious and that miracles happen every day. We are always blessed with opportunities to make the best of what we have, to start over at any moment, to reach for the stars with our dreams and to make an impact with your life by spreading love, inspiration, joy, peace, hope and the Divine light within you.

You just have to be willing. Are you willing to live? Are you willing to breathe, to experience life’s joys, to dream and to live your life’s purpose? Let your willingness carry you forward to where your destiny flows.