Candlelight Breakfasts: A Morning Ritual to Nurture Your Relationship

W A X I N G   M O O N

Water your heart’s seeds with hope.

Nurture what you love.

How else will the important things flourish?

 

Morning rituals are so sacred. They set the tone for the rest of the day, which is exactly why I cherish our candlelight breakfasts.

Each morning, we light candles at our little dining table and sit down to breakfast together, a touch of romance to something ordinary. The thing I hold dearest in my heart is that this simple morning ritual has become a foundation that fosters togetherness so that we move through the rest of the day feeling more connected to one another and grounded in love.

Dealing with fertility issues and overcoming the devastation of miscarriages aren’t the easiest experiences to get to grips with. It comes with a lot of stress and emotional turmoil that can put strain on your marriage. So, in the face of our reality, my husband and I have had to consciously explore pathways for connection and look at how to create a supportive environment in which our love and marriage can continue to thrive despite challenges. Our candlelight breakfast is just one of the things we’ve incorporated into our daily lives to serve those intentions. It’s created the space for us to slow down and check in with one another before the day’s demands take hold.

As part of our morning ritual – between the usual fruit, smoothies, oats, muesli and tea – we do a gratitude practice together, counting our blessings and sharing what we are grateful for. We set our intentions for the week/the day, discussing our core desires, goals and visions. Something I consider very significant is that we make a point of asking the question – How can I support you? We didn’t always know how to ask for support or express our needs, especially in the early days. Learning to do so has taught us to take better care of ourselves and of each other. Keeping the lines of communication open is key in any relationship and knowing how to support each other (whether soothing one another’s pain, sharing chores, offering inspiration or celebrating joys and successes) helps to cement your bond.

This morning ritual offers us the opportunity to be present, connect, communicate and nurture our relationship. It’s been a daily practise for 7 months now, one that I still look forward to every day. I take comfort seeing my husband leave for work in a happy and grounded space and in knowing that I feel that way too. The dynamics of our lives will change when we eventually do have our babies. We won’t always have the same calmness, or the luxury of time. But when that changes, I have no doubt that we will continue to foster new pathways for connection and find our way back to one another.

I recognise that there are no perfect lives. No perfect relationships or marriages. But there are happy ones. Challenges always arise. It’s a natural part of life. The real test, however, is in how we choose to navigate our way through them. And the effect of those choices determines whether two people walk the path together in a healthy and supportive relationship or not. I’m so grateful that my partner in crime is a gentle, wise, loving and understanding soul who has made even the toughest paths so easy to walk together.

Do you feel supported? How to you nurture your relationship?  

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Moon Milk: To Nourish Your Feminine Hormones

F U L L   M O O N.

A soothing adaptogenic elixir to nurture the feminine body and soul. Brew yourself a cup at the end of your day. Drink it beneath the stars, moonlight spilling into your eyes, and Goddess love flowing into your heart.

Moon milk has become a daily part of my life. I’m working to healing PCOS naturally and restoring my hormones to balance (with the intention of conceiving a baby), so nutrition and herbs have been important medicine on my journey. Maca, ashwagandha and shatavari are the three most common herbs that are often recommended to me. Since these herbs support the female reproductive system – enhancing libido, balancing hormones and moods, supporting fertility and helping the body to adapt to changes or stress – they’re recommended in the preconception and postpartum stages, but should not be taken during pregnancy. I’ve had quite a bit of experience with maca over the past couple of years, putting it in everything from my smoothies, to hot chocolate to muffins. Yet although I’ve heard lots about ayurvedic ashwagandha and shatavari, I only recently found that they’re finally available at the health stores I order my supplies from.

So, from the moment I got my hands on them, this moon milk magic swiftly became a grounding and soothing caffeine-free part of my afternoon ritual, helping to calm my heart when I take a moment to step aside from the day’s demands, breathe and enjoy the late afternoon sun. I love the warm malty flavour with a hint of honey and cinnamon (if this is not to your taste, then adding a tablespoon of cocoa gives it a lovely chocolaty flavour).  I make my moon milk with almond mylk most of the time, though I must admit that it’s so yummy with coconut milk too. Since I often get asked about the recipes for things I share on Instagram, I thought I’d share this one on the blog today for those who may be interested. See the recipe below.

Ingredients:

1 cup of nut milk (almond, coconut, walnut, etc)

1 tsp of maca

1 tsp of ashwagandha

1 tsp shatavari

¼ tsp of cinnamon

Honey to taste

(Optional – add a tablespoon of cocoa gives it a lovely chocolatey flavour)

Directions:

Warm the nut milk in a sauce pan. Add all dry ingredients into the sauce pan and whisk them slowly until the ingredients have blended together nicely. Then pour the elixir into your cup, add a drizzle of honey and enjoy. Alternatively, warm the nut milk in a sauce pan, then when it is ready pour into your high speed blender. Add all ingredients (including honey), blend it for 30 seconds and then pour the moon milk out into a cup and enjoy. I personally prefer using the high speed blender because its easy and faster.

Full Moon Blessings to You!

 

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Disclaimer – This page is for educational and informational purposes only and may not be construed as medical advice. The information is not intended to replace medical advice offered by physicians. Consult your personal health care professional for advice on what works best for you.

How to Create Intention Stones for the New Moon

N E W   M O O N. Intentions are prayers. Offer them to the Universe.

These gentle whispers got me wondering – How do You Explore and Honour your Intentions?

I set them all the time. I’m very good at writing them down. But lately, after a day or two, they rest on my journal pages, cast aside and forgotten about. So, when I sat breathing in the light of the almost-winter sun the other morning, I felt it necessary to do things differently. I decided to create intentions stones in anticipation of a fresh lunar cycle.

I like the thought of using tactile things (especially elements of Nature) to draw my intuition and the dreams in my heart out to the surface. The idea of intention stones offered itself as a pathway to invite the essence of Spirit into my physical experience a little more.

Thinking of intentions as prayers reminded me of some research I did years ago when I took a course on the history of beads. I discovered that the word bead is derived from the old Gemanic word ‘bede’, which means ‘prayer’. Literature on the history of beads relay stories of hermitic nomads known as the ‘Desert Mothers and Fathers’, a group of women and men who are said to have roamed the Egyptian desert around the 3rd century AD. As part of their spiritual practice, these desert mothers and fathers would recite 150 Psalms. The illiterate among them who couldn’t count well were given a bowl of 150 pebbles in order to help them keep count of their Psalms.

Each pebble became a Psalm, a soulful prose, a purposeful prayer…something that I find incredibly beautiful.

It must have been difficult for these spiritual nomads to carry around the weight of so many stones, because with time the bowl of pebbles was replaced by a knotted string (with 150 knots tied into it). Through the centuries the knotted strings evolved into strings of prayer beads. Adopted by various different cultures and religions they became the malas, prayer beads and rosaries that we know today.

I’ve seen many beautiful and different kinds of intention stones, inspiration pebbles or gratitude rocks. Most have a single word or short phrases carved into them to use as a mantra or meditation. I’ve heard stories of how some of the Japanese gather pebbles from temples, write their prayers on them and place these prayer pebbles at their household shrines. The prayer pebbles are then returned to the temples when their prayers have been answered. So I drew inspiration from all of these ideas when I created my own intention stones. I’ve used some of the smoothed stones that I collected at the Cape Agulhas beach (the Southern-most tip of Africa) last winter, the place where the Indian and Atlantic oceans meet. Cape Agulhas was a childhood bucket list item, so it felt like a good way to bring the inspiring energy of having that particular dream realised into the my new intentions. Also, since one of my intentions focuses on ‘gentleness’ and ‘loving myself’, I chose to use a rose quartz pebble for that one.

I’ve put my intention stones on my bedside table and on my writing desk. That way I pick them up in the mornings when I wake up and in the evenings before bed. They stay in my awareness and I revisit them at various points in the day. It feels good to hold each of stone close to my heart, honour each of my intentions one by one, visualise them and offer a prayer. I’ll forever remember Marissa Moondaughter’s profound description of stones. She said: “Crystals and stones are the bones of Mother Earth; she willingly fractures her body so we can heal and commune with her energy”. Her words have added to the sacredness of my experience since working with these intention stones.

How to Make & Use Your Own Intention Stones

Making: The intention stones are pretty simple to make.
Take a moment to centre yourself, connect with your intuition and write down your new moon intentions. Then depending on what suites you best, typing and print the key words/phrases or write them down on small bits of paper.
Select the stones or crystals that you’d like to use. Stick the words/phrases onto your stones. Another option is to write your intentions on the stones with a marker. However, I thought it made sense to use bits of paper that I can easily clean off when I’m ready to set new intentions.

Using: Place your intention stones at your bedside or in a place where you will see and pick them up regularly.
Whenever you pick them up, hold them in your hand, meditate on them, visualise and be open to any guidance that may come to you.