How I Cultivate Self-Worth in the Face of Fertility Challenges

(*Please note that the full article has been published in October 2018 issue of ROAR, Fierce Feminine Rising Magazine)


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I ask you to meet yourself with kindness in this moment. Put your hand over your heart, breathe deeply and send love to yourself. I know how much you need it. Lean softly into the calm intuitive wisdom of your centre. Affirm to yourself: I am worthy, simply because I exist. I have a right to be here, simply because I breathe. I am whole. I belong. I am enough. I value myself. I love myself. I accept myself as I am.

Say these affirmations as many times as you need to. Let the medicine of these words seep like healing honey into the depths of your soul. Now think of one kind or healing thing that you can do for yourself right now, and then focus on allowing yourself that loving gift today.

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 I see it every day – women who feel broken, worthless and betrayed by their own bodies. They are hurting, all the while making their best effort to smile, to heal themselves and the bodies that they feel stuck in. They are nursing their broken hearts on the path to fulfil their deepest desire, the path to becoming a mother. I understand what it is like to grapple with the experience of being a childless mother. I know first-hand how easy it is to turn the war inward, to internalise the sense of failure that you feel for not being pregnant and not yet having created the family that you long so deeply for. A simple thing – you tell yourself – that any woman should be able to do effortlessly. And in a society whose patriarchal gaze places little value on our empty wombs, one where your success is quite often still defined by whether or not you are married and how many offspring you are able to produce, how could you feel any differently about yourself?

“It takes years as a woman to unlearn what you have been taught to be sorry about.” ~ Amy Poehler

In my case, it took hitting rock bottom at mid-point of what has turned out to be bumpy 6-year long TTC journey for me to see this reality clearly. Somewhere between descending the downward spiral of depression and trying to keep breathing through grief, uncertainty and shame, I started to see how my perceptions of my situation and of myself were harming me. As my longing for motherhood remained unfulfilled, I’d allowed myself to be defined by a growing sense of inadequacy. In addition, not meeting the social expectations of what a woman my age ‘should be’ eroded my self-worth. At my lowest point, I found myself at a crossroads – either I would continue on a very painful path deeper into the abyss of negativity, or I could rescue myself …

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Morning Journalling

Early bird. Night owl. We all have our preferences.

What are yours?

Do you dance barefoot under the stars enchanted my Mother Night’s mystery?

Or do you wake up with the first rays of the quiet rising sun and listen to the birds rejoice as colour returns to the world?

As you may know, I love am an early riser. I love the stillness and golden magic of day when it’s slowly waking up. Mornings are when I meditate, journal, drink tea and write.

So I’m honoured to participate in Monica Sabolla Gruppo’s Everyday Journals interview series where I discuss my morning journaling ritual and how it feeds into my life and my writing.

You can read the interview here…Morning Journaling with Jodi Sky Rogers

Some of my Journals

Spiritual Inspiration: Boxes and Jars

What do boxes and jars have to do with Soul Therapy or Spirituality? These are two ordinary things that can be utilized for various every day uses. However, like most things, the meaning and function that you give them can transform their purpose completely.

 

Here are a few fun, yet purposeful ways that you can use boxes and jars for spiritual inspiration:

 

Reiki Box – This is a great tool to assist with manifestation or healing. To create a Reiki box, you basically use any small box. Write down a dream or goal that you would like to manifest or an area in your life where you need healing on a piece of paper. Place this paper in the box. You can also add crystals or small objects of spiritual significance into the box if you like. Then send Reiki and positive intentions into the box.

According to Reiki Rays: “… whenever you want, you just send Reiki to the box, intending that it goes to the situations identified by the pieces of paper in the box. This works very well, because the energy is guided by your intent. And when you added the requests, you intended that the healing you send to the box goes to them. (www.reikirays.com)

 

Calming Glitter Jar – A Calming Glitter Jar is a meditation tool. It can be used for both adults and children. Many people use them whenever a child feels stressed, overwhelmed, upset or as a time out. I made one for myself a while ago to use it in stressful moments. It’s amazing how watching the sparks of light reflecting from the glitter as it floats through the fluid helps me focus my thoughts and come back to the present moment. See how to make one here:

“Imagine the glitter as your thoughts. When you shake the jar, imagine your head full of whirling thoughts, then watch them slowly settle while you calm down.” ~ Angie Yingst

Find out how to make a Calming Glitter/Mind Jar –http://www.dumpyourfrump.com/2011/09/29/use-a-mind-jar-to-calm-yourself/

 

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God Box – God Box is one of my favourite angel oracles in Doreen Virtue’s Angel Therapy Oracle Card deck. The angel message that accompanies this card asks you to write your worries, concerns or desires on a piece of paper. You then place this piece of paper into a special box, referred to as a God Box. This is meant to be a way of letting go of your concerns and allowing Divine Spirit to help you.

 

Dear Universe Jar – I came across this idea in the lovely Jen Sauders’ blog – My Smiling Heart. Jen created her Dear Universe jar as a way to help her focus on her gratitude and goals more. For this, all you need is an empty jar. You can paint it or decorate it however you like. Place this jar at your bedside or in your sacred space. Then when the inspiration arises, write little gratitude notes or requests to the Universe and place them in the jar. On days when you feel down or unfocused, you can also pull a note to two out to reread them to remind yourself of what you have to be grateful for or what is important to you.

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